Clearing Limiting Beliefs - A belief that is limiting is only limited by us. If we have a desire to do something and we don’t believe we can do that, then that is a limiting belief. Limiting beliefs tend to be linked around three states:

• Hopelessness – a feeling that no-one can do it
• Helplessness – I can’t do it
• Worthlessness – It’s not OK for me to do it or be it

What we hold true are our beliefs. By the age of 7, 95% of your beliefs are laid down in your subconscious mind. Because your frontal lobe was not developed then, we accepted them all from our parents and significant others. We actually did not have any opportunity for rationale thinking so we accepted them all.

There are many examples of twins and/or siblings raised in the same household, by the same parents who have remarkably different lives and when you ask them why they are so different they give you the same answer “Because of my upbringing”.  One person believes they should be a victim of the upbringing while the other person may choose to do something differently.

Einstein said “We are boxed in by the boundary conditions of our thinking” So we actually place a boundary around what we can do and how we can behave until we choose to change that belief.

Letting go of Limiting Beliefs will make a difference to what you do from now on. The first step is to become AWARE of your limiting beliefs and then we can go through the process of clearing them.

Aware of my limiting beliefs that provide the boundaries in which I function

What am I that is greater than that limiting belief (list the positive things about you)

Ask yourself “What would it feel like for me not to have that limiting belief anymore?”

Release the limiting belief that is holding you back

Empower myself to change and Expect a new outcome

For you to be AWARE of your Limiting Beliefs, ask yourself “What is my Present State? And What is my Desired State”? Any and all obstacles that come up for you around not being able to achieve your desired state are in fact limiting beliefs. By removing them you open up so many possibilities.

Lets have a look at some popular limiting beliefs like

• I am not good enough
• I don’t deserve
• Its not Ok to make mistakes/ I have to be perfect
• I have to put other peoples needs above my own
• Its not OK to be happy
• Its not OK to be rich
• You can’t depend on anyone, you have to do everything  yourself (an inability to let go so the business always stays at the same level)
• Its not OK to show weakness or vulnerability
• Its not OK to assert yourself
• I am not lovable
• I have to be better than everyone else.
• *****and the list just keeps growing

Do you recognize yourself in any of these? OR do you have others? Lots of limiting beliefs around TRUST are also common.

It’s interesting that these beliefs are quite often linked to an emotion or a value. They become so strong that they cement the value in place and that is why it may not be totally easy to change some values. Imagine making a decision at three or four years of age that “its no point talking to people because they don’t listen to you” and carrying that all through your life.

You are now in your fifties and still have that belief and so your children, your partner and others do not get why you choose not to communicate. They are unaware of the decision to carry a limiting belief around and they are often blamed for your miss communication until that belief is removed. Then your family and your business perform at a whole new level once you know longer choose to carry that limiting belief. Imagine a fifteen minute exercise that can remove a lifetime of limits. EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE